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Parent Self-Love

Do you know the most important thing many parents don’t consider when preparing for parenthood?

… their ability to love unconditionally!

  Healthy parenting requires the ability to self-love to enable parents to love unconditionally. 

The role of parent is not an easy one.  Healthy parenting requires specific skills and physical, mental and emotional stamina – all of which are rooted in a parent’s self-esteem. 

A parent’s self-esteem plays a very important role in the health of their children’s well-being since parents are their children’s first role models and teachers.  Children are like little sponges.  They absorb every emotion, word, action and feeling their parent’s express towards them.  Therefore, it is critical that the parent’s self-esteem is based on a healthy self-love since this is how their children learn to respect, value and love themselves – by observing their parents!

A Parent's Ability To Unconditionally Love Themselves
...affects their child's ability to love themselves.

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Children whose parents have a healthy self-love and positive outlook on life will establish a strong foundation to develop a healthy self-esteem.



Children whose parents are self-critical develop a negative outlook on life.  They also inherit their parent’s fears, insecurities and low self-esteem.

“Until we learn to love and respect ourselves, only then can we truly know how to love and respect others.”

~ Reiki Rita

PARENTS WITH HIGH SELF-ESTEEM have balanced to high energy levels. This enables them to see value, purpose and respect themselves. They embrace what makes them special, and make a conscious effort to care for their physical needs, are mindful of their thoughts and acknowledge their emotions. They practice unconditional love for themselves and have the skills to practice this same unconditional love on their children.

PARENTS WITH LOW SELF-ESTEEM have low, unbalanced energy levels. As a result, it is difficult for them to respect themselves and place any value or purpose on their lives. Parents with low self-esteem often parent with anger, resentment or jealousy as a way of defending themselves from feeling any further emotional pain. These parents are often emotionally starved for love as a result of being raised by conditionally loving parents.

“Can a parent who hasn’t experienced unconditional love from their parents be able to unconditionally love their children?  

 YES.  But only after they heal themselves of their emotional childhood pain and learn to love themselves unconditionally — FIRST!   Healing past emotional childhood pain is the only way a parent can become “emotionally-ready” to learn the skill of healthy self-love which will enable them to love their children unconditionally.   Otherwise, emotionally-wounded children become emotionally-wounded people who become emotionally-wounded parents.

Even when a person begins their parenting journey with the intention of expressing unconditional love to their child, the difference between whether they are capable or not will depend on their ability to unconditionally love themselves.

A person’s self-esteem begins with their parents.  They teach them how they feel about themselves by the way they experienced love through them.   So whether a parent is capable of loving their children unconditionally, really depends on whether or not they felt unconditionally loved and valued by their parents.  It’s a combination of healthy self-esteem and having experienced unconditional love by our own parents that will determine if we are good parents to our children or not.  — not wishful thinking or having good intentions! 

A person’s childhood reality will predict their parenthood reality.   Therefore, if a parent does not heal themselves of any unresolved pain and learn how to love themselves unconditionally, then they are only capable of showing the hurtful “conditional love” they were taught as children.  Unconsciously, these parents will parent negatively as a result of their low self-esteem and the conditional love they received from their own parents as children.  And, so the generational cycle of family dysfunctional continues…

Examples of negative parenting include, parents who play THE VICTIM, THE NEEDY, THE MARTYR, THE GUILT-TRIPPER and/or THE CONTROLLER.   These parents don’t intentionally choose to parent this way.  They do it unconsciously.  It’s the emotionally-wounded parent’s way of taking back a false sense of power.   In other words, trying to “reclaim” the energy they lost while being controlled  by their parents through conditional love.span>


RESPONSIBLE PARENTING: Essential Parent Training
Parent Self-Love

chess board fingersIf we compare your life to a chess game, your parents were responsible for placing you on the board of life and making your first move for you. Every decision they made for you was based on their own self-esteem and influenced by their culture, religion, and personal life experiences. Your self-esteem began to form as a result of the feelings you developed about yourself due to the direction and choices they made for you; and whether or not you felt unconditionally loved by them as a result of those experiences.

Reiki Rita uses the analogy of a chess board to teach parents how every  decision they make is based on their self-love and how it directly impacts the quality of their health and happiness and their relationships with their children, partner, family and friends.   Parents will benefit from understanding what healthy unconditional self-love is and how it impacts their self-esteem.  

Who Says Family Dysfunction Can’t Be Fun?

mini meThe best way to truly understand your dysfunctional family and why certain personality types make you angry, hurt or “reactive” — is by taking a walk in their shoes.  
In this fun, interactive workshop, you will enjoy learning how to reclaim your energetic power and get clear about why and how “Energy Vampires” steal your energy and compromise your happiness.  Understand the dynamics of each family relationship and why and how negative drama and power struggles happen and how to avoid them. 
We will explore the most common personality types found in dysfunctional families (The Victim, Controller, Energy Vampire, People Pleaser, The Golden Child, Black Sheep, etc.) and how each one energetically impacts your self-esteem, parenting style and your ability to love yourself and your children unconditionally.   
A "Healing" Look Underneath The Family Rug...

This UNIQUE, FUN & INTER-ACTIVE workshop uses “energy awareness” to help parents recognize old negative experiences or critical people – either past or present — that make you feel “stuck” in critical thinking and negatively affect your self-esteem. 

  • Replace critical thinking and negative people with healthier alternatives that will raise your self-esteem and improve your health.
  • Discover how easy it is to release old beliefs that no longer serve you and compromise your personal growth.
  • Learn how to reclaim lost energy by learning how to recognize the energy vampires that drain your daily energy supply. 
Healthy Self-Esteem – Unhealed Pain = CONSCIOUS PARENT